Boxer_Daddy's blog

As a veteran boxer I've been around the gym for a few years. I've seen the rookie faces of hopeful young pugilists to the dejected expression of disillusioned contenders. Throughout my tenure I've watched guys being trained as well as been asked to help train others. Its during that time that I have witnessed a recurring tragedy that shames the sport and those claiming to be instructors of the fine art. A "newbie" comes into the gym to be introduced to the sport of boxing. He finds a coach and/or trainer then asks for instruction. The newbie receives some basic teachings then a week or two later he's tossed in the ring against a well trained or highly skilled jerk of a boxer that beats the snot out of him. WTF?!?! This is WRONG! Even if the newbie asked to have his skills tested, this is FAR TOO soon and NOT the right way to introduce him to the squared circle. I'm sure I don't need to hold my tongue here when I mention how fragile the male ego is. Whether many want to admit it or not. No aspiring boxer (unless he's a jobber, but that's another story) wants to get his ass kicked the first time out. A fighter can be quickly turned off by the sport and never return. Especially given today's "instant gratification society generation" that expects to be Muhammed Ali / Rocky Marciano their first time in the ring. Oh wait, my bad that's WAY before their time, please insert Floyd Mayweather Jr / Manny Pacquaio into those previous champion name slots.

I'd like to believe that the trainer is hoping to unlock a newbie's natural talent. But this is the wrong way of going about it. Being tossed into a gladiatorial arena is no way to root out a person's instinctive skill for battle. Mercifully the newbie's performance is not judged by an audience or he would most assuredly receive a thumbs down and have his life ended. Young hopefuls need to be skillfully guided to the top to unlock their potential. You never know who's going to be the next champion whether they come in early or late in life. Every fighter needs to be handled differently. If one method of teaching doesn't work try another. Don't just toss a guy to the wolves and let him fend for himself to see if he survives.

Another tragedy along the same lines is when a newbie is used as punching bag material for a trainers other more skilled fighters. Again this is another way to turn off a potential aspiring boxer. If a guy gets his ass kicked enough times in the ring without learning anything he'll begin to question the validity of his chosen sport, ponder himself and why he's constantly taking this kind of punishment for no reason.
If you're a coach or a trainer, is it worth the risk to find the next champ given the declining numbers of guys interested in boxing? If you're that "newbie" I strongly urge you to find another instructor. There are thousands of trainers out there. And if you're a witness, pull that boxer to the side and inform him of his options. You'll be better for having helped change someone's life and that boxer will be thankful to you for the rest of his life.

A'ight YO! I'm back with a vengeance as I blog about this one. I'm hoping your eyes don't get burned reading the anger of my words off your screen.

This RANT! Is vehemently directed at the FAKE BOXER(s)! You KNOW WHO You are! You're that guy with a picture of himself wearing boxing gloves, striking the pose of a boxer and saying yeah, I box. M%&*% F&^er going to a gym and hitting the heavy bag DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Borrowing someone's gloves and/or boxing trunks to take a picture in DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Watching boxing on TV and being a fan DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Taking a Boxer-Aerobics class while wearing imitation boxing gloves DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! I cannot even begin to tell you how much this angers those of us that have taken the time to learn the fine art of pugilism and train at our chosen sport to become good at what we do. It is a DIRECT insult to those of US that take PRIDE in our sport & abilities to engage other men and battle within the squared circle. It's also aggravating to no end to come across a profile like previously aforementioned when it's a well body conditioned guy that looks like he could give you a good fight or some heavy duty rounds testing your physical endurance and mental fortitude. I'll tell you FAKE BOXERS this. My veteran fisticuff fighters and I know how to quickly determine if you're a real boxer or not. AND like most gay men we talk. The gay boxing network is very small unlike the gay wrestling circuit. When a new profile appears one of us will find out if you're real or not and quickly inform the others so we don't all waste our time trying to get know you and find out if you're legit or not.

You know it's sad in this day and age when people have to be thoroughly investigated first, when an individual cannot be taken on the honor of his word. As an IT (Information Technology) man, I'm sure when the internet was first created the inventors had only good intentions for bringing people from all over the world closer together; to allow like minded individuals to find one another quickly; to strengthen the bonds of friendship and camaraderie across the globe. And yet there are those who abuse this great tool and use it for dishonorable and nefarious purposes. We are gay and we are boxers (a double if not triple minority), yet some of us still delve into the art of subterfuge. Call me naïve, but what eventuality does this serve when you are seeking like minded others? We hide from the world at large yet lie to those like us. THIS IS WRONG! My momma always said "If you don't know why you're doing something, then you shouldn't be doing it." – SO STOP!

Okay, it's official, I'm a blogger. I had only hoped to respond to msgs from my earlier posts left by interested parties but it seems I've developed something of a fan base. And they've asked to me to speak on other topics. I'm already a writer so I suppose this is just part of my nature. I just didn't want to be one of those guys that was seen as simply bitching about stuff. I'm truly only looking to make guys aware of the inconsistencies and lies of other individuals so they will be better prepared to deal with them.

Okay so this one is for all fighters. How many times have you been perusing through profiles and see a guy you'd like to fight? You check out his profile and see commonalities including fight genre. Next you contact him and low and behold he responds. The two of you setup a meeting time & place. Eventually comes the time to meet in person. NOTE: Eight out of ten meetings from online sites never happen. You wait for the guy in a shop, a gym or some other public local. Around the appointed meeting time an older gentleman approaches you. Briefly you say to yourself, "Who is this old guy?" Until the facial recognition software in your brain kicks in and you realize this IS the guy you were supposed to meet. Problem is he's like 15 to 20 years older than any picture you've ever seen. WTF?!?! Unless you're rude, a prick or just plain mean and leave right there you decide to converse with the guy only to confirm your suspicions. Guys, THIS IS WRONG! Putting up pics of yourself from your hey-day when you currently look nothing like this IS WRONG! It is the same as LYING! NOT TELLING your intended interest is a LIE of Omission and a LIE of Omission is still a LIE! Worse still is when the pictures are of a well built or conditioned guy that looks like he can give you a decent run for your money and would be fun to punch, roll, grapple or whatever. For those that came out late in life, I'm truly sorry it took this long, but you've made it. You took that final step to be comfortable in yourself, who you are and your sport. Now it's time to be honest with others. Unfortunately there aren't a lot of older fighters out there, thus I understand why you pretend to visually be your younger self. But this is not an excuse to mislead others. You'd be surprised at how many guys like to fight older dudes. I know of a few young boxers that will only fight "Daddy" types or "Daddy" looking boxers. In spite of my age, it's a category I do not fall in, . To each his own I say, many of us have preferences. Again take pride in your age, you've come this far in life and have a considerable amount of experience and abilities that others can only benefit from. I'm often asked to spar with kids three times younger than me to help them improve. My skill level allows me to fight a multitude of guys with varying skill levels, thus I'm in demand. You'll be in demand to once guys realize how much you have to offer.

The Pic in a Profile. A man has spent years in isolated seclusion dealing with his sexuality and attraction to boxing. He finally comes to terms with it and decides to seek out other men who engage in the homosexual pugilistic aspects of the sport. He finds a combat sport themed site such as "Meet Fighters" to meet men of similar caliber. AND the first thing he does is only partially fill out a profile and post a picture of himself (if even manages to do that) with his gloves in front of his face so no one can see his mug. WTF?!?! First off this is a ridiculous pose. Secondly it shows a guy has no clue how to hold his hands in a real fight to protect himself. How is anyone supposed to be able to get a good look at you to see if they want to fight you? Of course boxers should be looking at your physique to see if they can handle you in the ring, but we all know that gay men are VISUAL creatures. I've chatted with other boxers that tell me they won't fight a particular guy because he's ugly. AGAIN WTF?!?! What difference does it make if he's not that good looking? You're planning on slamming your fists into his face and making him less attractive anyway! I guess that old saying is true. "Don't box ugly people; they have nothing to lose in a fight." Still, what are you hiding from?

Now of course some MOOK wrestler(s) or masked Luchador(s) is going to read this and add his unwanted two cents to the rant. For them I say, this is directed at Glove-Faced boxers NOT wrestlers in any way shape or form. Yes, there is an appeal to masked Lucha, but we're not talking about masked boxing. A boxer wants to see the damage he inflicts on his opponent. He wants to leave marks on his opponents face to let the world know that the other guy has been in a fight and did not fare well against him.

I will say this. I've noticed that usually older boxers or rather middle-aged men and up are the only types of boxers that do this in their profile. DUDE! Why are you hiding? With the advent of TV, more and more proud gay men and women athletes are coming out every day. Of course, I can't guarantee, but I doubt your true family and friends would ostracize you because of this. They would be like "Hhmm… I didn't know. But it's cool." Being a gay boxer only vilifies your existence. You DO like Hitting on men! All of my sparring partners are str8 and they know about me. I'm the 2nd toughest boxer in the gym, only the professional fighter is better. What are my opponents gonna do, kick my ass? NOT!

NOTE: Meet Fighters is a login site. If someone outs you it means they had to have logged in created profile and snooped around just to find you. Which means they're bi or gay too.

As I get off my soapbox, I'll leave you with this. If you love the sport of boxing take pride in it. Be proud of yourself that you've come this far in your pugilistic journey to have the ability to face off against other men and test your physical and mental fortitude in the squared circle. You will only become a stronger boxer and a better man for it. Your sexuality does not make you any less of a warrior in the ring.

I am not a “Blogger.” I do not sit around all day and literate my opinion everyday for others to read and either agree or pass judgment on me. I am a writer. And every now and then something bothers me to no end that I feel a need to write about. So if you “feelin’ me” cool. If not, then that’s on you. This is simply my opinion and how I see things.

WRESTLERS who contact BOXERS for a fight. WTF?!?!?!? Can someone please explain this to me? I have profiles on a few sites. ALL OF THEM profusely state my DESIRE and PREFERENCE to STRICTLY Box and only meet OTHER guys who BOX for “REAL FIGHTS.” In fact at the end of ALL my profiles IT CLEARLY STATES “I DO NOT WRESTLE! SO DO NOT ASK!” SO! Can someone PLEASE tell me WHY I’m still being contacted by wrestlers asking me to fight? Are these wrestlers FUCKING STUPID?! Can they not read?! Are these wrestlers that bad that they can’t find anyone to beat up on so they ask a boxer? Are they getting some perverted pleasure out of challenging or asking a guy in another fight genre to battle?! Clearly it would not be an even fight. There are THOUSANDS of wrestlers out here in comparison to only a few hundred boxers. WHY THE FUCK are some of them asking a BOXER if he wants to fight?! I would love to hear from others on their thoughts on this.

Keep your guard up and come out punching

Techboxer aka Boxer Daddy