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Okay fellas what’s the deal? I mean, WTF? When did basketball length trunks invade boxing? I believe it was late 1990’s early 2000’s, but still what is this incessant need to wear trunks so long that they nearly impede your leg movement in the ring? Wet silk / satin get’s clingy. If you’re a fleet footed fighter then you know what I’m talking about. And don’t get me started on the idiots I’ve seen wearing Capri pants in the ring. Fashion statement maybe? I say Fashion – IDIOCRACY!

I don’t know about the rest of you… but I grew up watching boxing in the 70’s and 80’s, even then boxers still were faithful to the half naked pugilist code of wearing bootie hugging shorts that practically revealed it all. Okay… so there is no half naked boxer’s code, but many times audiences were not tuning in to see two half naked men box for dominance. They were getting cheap thrills watching the supremely muscled warriors battle in attire similar to that seen at the beach or pool. I’m certain many a gay boxer has the images of fighters long gone battling effortlessly in trunks that didn’t remotely hinder their movements, while allowing the audiences to oogle their uber-masculine physiques as they darted to and fro in an elevated squared circle.

Thankfully current day boxers in the lighter weight classes still pay homage to boxers of the past by wearing classic length shorts when they fight. I’m certain they understand the importance of being able to swiftly move about the canvas as they show their craft. Look at UFC trunks… when they first started there where nothing more than square cut swim trunks. There was a movement to the longer pants but more of the swift maneuver fighters still prefer the traditional shorts. I have to admit getting my cheap thrills watching them.

Obviously you as the reader/boxer or something in between will do as you please. But look at the history of the sport and you will gain a better appreciation for why trunks of such length were chosen in the first place.

Okay my Fellow Pugilists - I'M BACK & I HAVE A QUESTION:

PUNCH CHUMPS what’s up with having to get wasted before engaging in a fight? Yes, you’re gonna lose… but feeling the need to suppress the beating only demeans you and the boxer you’re facing off against. If being worked over truly IS your fetish then you would be embracing the pain and relishing every moment of a boxer’s destructive fists as they made contact. Especially if ultimately your being rendered from consciousness.

As a trained boxer I take pride in my craft. I’ve worked over many a jobber in the ring to the point of KO and bruised them to the point they knew they had been in a fight to not a single mark showed. Often times the only residuals are body soreness and a slight gap in memory from the loss of senses. The first time I encountered a guy that was drunk before I worked him over I let it slide because I wanted the experience as much as he did. The second time I sent him home packing. His intoxication was an insult to the amount of time and effort I put into setting up our meeting and ultimately was a sign of selfishness. He would get his thrills regardless of mine or not. I don’t know how many of you have been in a bar room brawl but the drunks are the first to hit the deck, sometimes regardless of being struck cleanly or not. The RANT includes dudes that like to get drunk before going out in the woods and slinging fists at one another in a pseudo attempt at fighting. What’s the point of having a fight if you don’t remember it at all? Are you bringing someone with you to record the pathetic melee of a match? That is probably the only way either of you is getting a thrill out of it if recall it at all.

FYI, this also applies to the use of other drugs. Whether you know it or not, the human body is the biggest drug pusher/chemical producer on the planet. Your body releases a multitude of suppressants, adrenaline and other compounds that allow you to withstand a variety of situations. Ask a highly skilled Dominant Leather person to demonstrate. I’m certain you’ll be surprised! They adhere to a strict code of Safe, Sane and Consensual. This is to protect you and them from reckless behavior. Any one ignoring this code is quickly ostracized for unsafe behavior. I personally have a strict cold of “Not breaking my toys as they will not come back and play with me anymore.” And if this statement doesn’t make sense to you now it will in time. Enjoy every experience if not all the sensations your body has to give you.

O-KAY! Here I go again! What is it about many of us that are gluttons for punishment? You know who you are because I am amongst you. I refer to those of us, who time and time again seek out other "combative" men to engage in battle. We: establish rules, regulations, gear, mode of operandi and even do a slight background check on the intended opponent. Meaning we asked a friend if he knows anything about the guy. We settle on an arranged time and location and the "perp" never shows. I call him a "perp" because by not showing up he has committed a criminal offense for wasting your considerable amount of time and effort on this. If you recall from my earlier post 9 out of 10 meetings on these sites never happen because many of the guys are masquerading as something they are not. As such it's a wonder anyone even tries to meet someone online. A smart boxer will pick the fights he knows he can win. A brave boxer will choose fights where there is a chance he will lose but will test himself and learn a great deal as he overcomes the adversity. A dumb boxer will fight regardless of the situation or odds. I've come to the conclusion I'm a brave boxer. There's still optimism in my heart because of my great love for the sport. I continue to believe that there are aspiring boxers out there seeking others like me that can help make the journey toward outside and self acceptance a little less rough.

Still it is those nefarious "never-do-wells" that continuously vie for our time and effort only to abuse it without care or regard. To thwart their efforts, I have a "litmus test" and a veteran gay boxing pioneer that I consult with before meeting any fighter. During those times when I'm traveling or visiting other locations I ALWAYS DOUBLE & TRIPLE BOOK fights! One or more guy will ALWAYS cancel! I mean WTF?!?! You're traveling across country or worse overseas and you've been looking forward to meeting this person for countless months only to have him cancel when you finally arrive at the appointed destination. Seriously again W.T.F?!?! Given the price of travel these days and you don't make the effort to fulfill your obligation of at least showing up in person with a lame excuse. Yes, this happened to me once. I was understanding and less pissed but I respected the fact that he had the "balls" to tell me the truth face to face. MAN up Guys! Just cause you’re a gay, homosexual, queen, punk, faggot, queer, light in the loafers kind of guy in one aspect does not mean you can't be an uber-male fighting machine in another. Today many of us are multifaceted handling many different moments in our lives. As such we neither have the time nor excess energy to be wasted on those who cannot live up to their written claims. You only get one shot at life. Do you want to be that resentful old man that sits outside his home, mad at the world because he didn't achieve all the goals he set in his life so he cusses at the world as it goes by or do you want to be the man that seized life by the balls and pushed the boundaries of your accomplishments? CARPE DIEM! Be honest with yourself and your opponent. It will make you a better person.

As a veteran boxer I've been around the gym for a few years. I've seen the rookie faces of hopeful young pugilists to the dejected expression of disillusioned contenders. Throughout my tenure I've watched guys being trained as well as been asked to help train others. Its during that time that I have witnessed a recurring tragedy that shames the sport and those claiming to be instructors of the fine art. A "newbie" comes into the gym to be introduced to the sport of boxing. He finds a coach and/or trainer then asks for instruction. The newbie receives some basic teachings then a week or two later he's tossed in the ring against a well trained or highly skilled jerk of a boxer that beats the snot out of him. WTF?!?! This is WRONG! Even if the newbie asked to have his skills tested, this is FAR TOO soon and NOT the right way to introduce him to the squared circle. I'm sure I don't need to hold my tongue here when I mention how fragile the male ego is. Whether many want to admit it or not. No aspiring boxer (unless he's a jobber, but that's another story) wants to get his ass kicked the first time out. A fighter can be quickly turned off by the sport and never return. Especially given today's "instant gratification society generation" that expects to be Muhammed Ali / Rocky Marciano their first time in the ring. Oh wait, my bad that's WAY before their time, please insert Floyd Mayweather Jr / Manny Pacquaio into those previous champion name slots.

I'd like to believe that the trainer is hoping to unlock a newbie's natural talent. But this is the wrong way of going about it. Being tossed into a gladiatorial arena is no way to root out a person's instinctive skill for battle. Mercifully the newbie's performance is not judged by an audience or he would most assuredly receive a thumbs down and have his life ended. Young hopefuls need to be skillfully guided to the top to unlock their potential. You never know who's going to be the next champion whether they come in early or late in life. Every fighter needs to be handled differently. If one method of teaching doesn't work try another. Don't just toss a guy to the wolves and let him fend for himself to see if he survives.

Another tragedy along the same lines is when a newbie is used as punching bag material for a trainers other more skilled fighters. Again this is another way to turn off a potential aspiring boxer. If a guy gets his ass kicked enough times in the ring without learning anything he'll begin to question the validity of his chosen sport, ponder himself and why he's constantly taking this kind of punishment for no reason.
If you're a coach or a trainer, is it worth the risk to find the next champ given the declining numbers of guys interested in boxing? If you're that "newbie" I strongly urge you to find another instructor. There are thousands of trainers out there. And if you're a witness, pull that boxer to the side and inform him of his options. You'll be better for having helped change someone's life and that boxer will be thankful to you for the rest of his life.

A'ight YO! I'm back with a vengeance as I blog about this one. I'm hoping your eyes don't get burned reading the anger of my words off your screen.

This RANT! Is vehemently directed at the FAKE BOXER(s)! You KNOW WHO You are! You're that guy with a picture of himself wearing boxing gloves, striking the pose of a boxer and saying yeah, I box. M%&*% F&^er going to a gym and hitting the heavy bag DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Borrowing someone's gloves and/or boxing trunks to take a picture in DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Watching boxing on TV and being a fan DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! Taking a Boxer-Aerobics class while wearing imitation boxing gloves DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BOXER! I cannot even begin to tell you how much this angers those of us that have taken the time to learn the fine art of pugilism and train at our chosen sport to become good at what we do. It is a DIRECT insult to those of US that take PRIDE in our sport & abilities to engage other men and battle within the squared circle. It's also aggravating to no end to come across a profile like previously aforementioned when it's a well body conditioned guy that looks like he could give you a good fight or some heavy duty rounds testing your physical endurance and mental fortitude. I'll tell you FAKE BOXERS this. My veteran fisticuff fighters and I know how to quickly determine if you're a real boxer or not. AND like most gay men we talk. The gay boxing network is very small unlike the gay wrestling circuit. When a new profile appears one of us will find out if you're real or not and quickly inform the others so we don't all waste our time trying to get know you and find out if you're legit or not.

You know it's sad in this day and age when people have to be thoroughly investigated first, when an individual cannot be taken on the honor of his word. As an IT (Information Technology) man, I'm sure when the internet was first created the inventors had only good intentions for bringing people from all over the world closer together; to allow like minded individuals to find one another quickly; to strengthen the bonds of friendship and camaraderie across the globe. And yet there are those who abuse this great tool and use it for dishonorable and nefarious purposes. We are gay and we are boxers (a double if not triple minority), yet some of us still delve into the art of subterfuge. Call me naïve, but what eventuality does this serve when you are seeking like minded others? We hide from the world at large yet lie to those like us. THIS IS WRONG! My momma always said "If you don't know why you're doing something, then you shouldn't be doing it." – SO STOP!