TakeThePunchesAI's blog
It's Okay To Step Away
Hey guys. So I thought this I'm about to share would be a great life philosophy and a great moment for everybody to learn about the real me.
So I joined this site back in November, as we came into 2021 I did land my first match. A little after the that somebody invited me to the chat. I was never on there before so I gave it a try. I ended up really enjoying it so I was on there all the time. I enjoyed the different people, I enjoyed asking questions. Sone of the random PM'S... not so much, just saying, lol. Overtime I thought It was welcoming and open and fun. But overtime, I began to feel a different energy in people on there. Like you cross a boundary or two, or three, or... and you just have it happen here and there, then it happens every other week. Then you have people coming and telling you you're annoying and then people Pming you and telling you you're annoying and how a group of people talk about it and all if this. The later is a fresh incident I'm referring too. And the sad part is, I was the one trying to defuse the situation, but I was the target and then I realized that my presence is bothersome to people. And then I thought maybe I was keeping people from being on the chat regardless of whether I did anything wrong. So I decided to simply step away and not be on there anymore.
Whether a chat, at your job, in a group, in your relationship, or ect. Never be afraid to step way from the situation, it's Okay. Do I like being on there, yeah. Did I want to keep being on there, yeah. But, why go on there and be viewed as something you're not and deal with all the unnecessary comments? Why deal with such energy that's not productive and not a reflection of who you are and what you deserve. Like you don't have to deal with that.
People see a certain look on someone and they see the character of the person and they think it applies to everyone who looks similar to this character. So, my body. The reason I look like I look is not to be thirsted over or to project myself as better or more important than anybody. I got my body here because I've battled depression since I was 12 due to traumatic family issues combined with lack of confidence. In my early 20s while in college, my mental foundation was crumbling, it was falling apart and I found myself contemplating suicide and being sure of it and it scared me. So I started exercising mainly to settle my mind and to keep me as far away from those dark thoughts as I can. It keeps me sharp, kept my mind active, keeps me striving towards something.
So those of you that make comments about me being arrogant and full of myself, not the cause at all. These last three years my dad (who's in his early 50s) has been on a downward spiral (chronic drinking) since his mother died. So much so, I've been paying on an insurance policy. Just here recently, my dad got released from the hospital because he almost died... again. The same dad who made me feel like shit, made me feel inadequate, that thought I was a "faggot" just because I was interested in doing something besides sports.
And yet when I was on the chat, I have people making me out to be somebody else. Well, this is the real me. And because I know who that real me is, I can step away from a situation I know I don't deserve to deal with. I encourage you all to do the same.
abuster (79 )
2021-07-16 오전 1:50Dude mad props for sharing this much of yourself. The fact you battled your depression and suicidal ideations and came out with that body is a huge victory in its own. But you're absolutely right you are MUCH more than a body. And I loved our conversations and your questions! Still hope to meet one day for the obvious gp fun but also to chat and hang out too! Stay strong bro 💪
TakeThePunchesAI (13)
2021-07-16 오전 1:53(이 글에 대한 답글)
I appreciate that man. And lol, of course.
lighthouseguy (6 )
2021-07-16 오전 2:00Whether it's a gym or a chess club, anything that helps people feel better about themselves is a good thing. Judging someone on superficial characteristics isn't very smart.
BamaJDon41 (10 )
2021-07-16 오전 4:13It's pretty simple, but haters are gonna hate. Let them take away something that you want, and they win.
roughouser (15)
2021-07-16 오전 4:32Someone will always not like you, no matter what. Don't waste your time on them. There are many who appreciate you the way you are, with your quirks and all. I definitely have a lot of respect for you - and of course this goes way beyond just your body or the discipline that got you to the shape you are in. You have an awesome personality and great aspirations. Keep it up. And yes, step away when needed. :)
synxiec (74)
2021-07-16 오전 4:33Thank you for sharing this. That's a lot to go through and the fact that you're still here to tell the story says everything that needs to be said. Being here in general and in chat in particular where people only see a small piece of who you are at the most... you would think people wouldn't be out here making assumptions and/or telling you what people are saying about whatever when they could just square up and talk to you directly. You are who you are and if it's not for them, then they can be elsewhere.
At the very least, you've been levelheaded about things and that's pretty cool.
TakeThePunchesAI (13)
2021-07-16 오전 4:42(이 글에 대한 답글)
I appreciate that man. My experiences and getting tired of being the cry baby along with obviously exercising made me stronger and more durable for the adversities in my life. This year is definitely the best I've ever felt.
synxiec (74)
2021-07-16 오전 4:47(이 글에 대한 답글)
And I hope that continues ✨
TakeThePunchesAI (13)
2021-07-16 오전 4:49(이 글에 대한 답글)
I'm confident it will, I'm expecting great success this month, this year, and beyond.
celtwrestle (46 )
2021-07-16 오전 4:45As the saying goes, if you can’t say anything good about a person, say nothing. A maxim that certainly should apply in the fight scene.
bnjifghtr (2)
2021-07-16 오전 5:32That was spot on my friend . . well said and delivered with the class that you so embody as a person - so proud of you dude !
SilverFoxFight (37)
2021-07-16 오후 2:36Thanks for being transparent with us! I am sorry that some superficial people ("Shallow Hals") have given you a hard time! Deano
TakeThePunchesAI (13)
2021-07-16 오후 2:47(이 글에 대한 답글)
Lol, what a golden reference. Thanks for reading.
NYC Wrestling (65)
2021-07-17 오후 10:00Thank you for sharing such a personal and painful story. Yes, some people on here (as on any social media site) can be assholes, but, as evidenced by the other fellas who commented here proved, there are real and genuine guys as well. Now I can see your profile name in a different light…you have taken the punches, and keep soldiering on!
TakeThePunchesAI (13)
2021-07-18 오전 5:47(이 글에 대한 답글)
Thanks for reading man. And yes, there definitely is and it is definitely reassuring to know. You know, I never really thought of that name that way. That's some pretty profound stuff right there.
SeattleFight (490)
2021-07-18 오전 6:36I’m glad to read if the obstacles you’ve overcome in a positive and constructive way. It’s too bad others don’t have the same orientation. To be supportive instead of destructive doesn’t seem like it should be that difficult, but evidently some cannot manage it. Bravo to you for so many reasons.