pshawfocus's blog

Typical, the start of the near year, the days are gradually getting longer and brighter (I hate dark, winter days), I've been taking advantage of the lack of winter travelers to enjoy a couple of cheaper trips across to Europe (incl. a great visit to Paris which elicited two fantastic GP meets) and it all gets curtailed when...I have to have an op on my back. Only a small op but darn, spring is in the air and I wanna meet some guys for GP! Thankfully less than a week later and recovery is going well, no bruising, the swelling is quickly abating and there don't appear to be any unplanned aftereffects. So, hopefully by early-April I'll be up for some GP.

At the end of last year I set-up a few searches on Meetfighters to provide lists of guys who have selected gut punching as an interest on their profile. The searches run for various locations - UK, France, Italy, Spain, Belgium etc and the resulting lists can then be sorted into most recent additions. I message some of the guys and say hi if they call out GP in their profile text, their stats match the kind of guys I like to meet (slim, athletic, average) and the profile looks 'genuine' (sic). But of late, quite a few have responded with radio silence or well, radio silence. It's not that they read my message and check out my profile and decide I'm not for them (fair enough), they simply read the message and then do nothing. Maybe they don't know how to check out a profile from a message (highly unlikely), maybe what I write is off-putting (hi, welcome to MF, I'm into GP like you, want to meet?) or maybe it's something else? For those guys who do read my profile but don't respond (a bit rude to be fair), maybe they've been blitzed with messages as a new joiner to MF so are taking a while to work through them. That idea could hold water but naturally when I re-run the same search a couple of months later...these guys have still not met anyone.

Maybe....those that do read my profile think sheesh he's ancient (not quite, though I tend to avoid messaging guys in their early 20's as I very much doubt they'll want to meet me). Do they think I'm too old / unfit for them? I'd hope my profile pics and recommendations would dispel that theory but obviously beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Sure, I'm no oil painting - ahahaha - but I'm pretty content with my physique and my abs are up for any challenge :-)

So, I've no great idea or solution to this, it's just a bit of a head scratcher to ponder whilst I recover. I have a pal in Milan who has messaged me to meet up again (we last met when I lived in New York). A late April trip to warm and sunny Milan for a weekend of hot GP? Count me in!

So thought I'd write a few words about my world of gut punching.

The 2017 festive period was pretty good, I met 6 guys over the course of a couple of weeks (andreGP, abs2000, theobolt, muscle-test, speedowrestler and a guy I know from Recon). I had been suffering from an eye problem from Oct to Dec so hadn't been doing so much, maybe this was my way of kick starting things! A few guys I was intending to meet I hadn't been able to find the time for - you know who you are - I'll be making sure we catch-up asap.

How about a few words on the guys I met? Well Abs2000 is a great guy to meet with, big and solid, he punches accurately and hard, puts me into various positions and is a general all round good guy; I guess we've met about 25 times over the years and he came to visit me when I lived in New York so obviously, I had to introduce him to various US GP'ers :-) I met with AndreGP in Brussels - he was one of the first guys I ever met for GP - in Camden no less - many years ago. We met a number of times before work and home seperated us so was great to get a good work over from him after a 7 year break. Theobolt was a new guy, he hadn't done any GP before so was a gentle intro session with me carefully working him over. Muscle-test and I have met a handful of times over the last couple of years but there's been a break whilst he was away travelling. A nice hot, impromptu meet with him on New Year's Day where I got to give his abs a good work over despite him having been out the night before! Speedowrestler and I have met maybe 10 times, he likes to mix the GP with nipple play so that was a slightly easier meet for my abs. The guy from Recon worked my abs hard - we've met 5 or so times, sometimes we trade and change roles (giver / taker) but on this occasion it was 95% me on the receiving end. A few nice aches the next day :-) There's not much punching with the Recon guy, he mostly jumps and stomps on my abs but also sits on them, adjusting his weight / position so it gets heavy and intense.

Whilst I'll play both roles I guess I enjoy being the sub more - taking the abuse, putting my abs under duress for the enjoyment of the dominant party. For me, that's the core of GP - the sub / dom element. The sub shouldn't need to be retrained, they should be 100% willing to have their stomach worked over - that means the dom doesn't need to dance around like they're boxing, they don't have anything to dodge as the sub isn't fighting back with their fists / legs etc, they're fighting back by continuing to take the abuse. All those theatrical videos you can find on U tube with the fake punches and the groans etc are just ridiculous. Of course it doesn't all need to be super intense and hardcore either - a good mix of intensity from full power through to softer, lighter and more tactile blows is ideal. Mix that with different positions, be that standing, laying down, crouching, hanging down from a bar or door frame, laying on a bed, laying on your side on the floor (ideal for being kicked in the stomach).... Changing the position of your abs changes the impact - stretching them out makes it more intense. I can also take punches with my abs relaxed so - with instruction from the dom, I can be totally tensed, semi-tensed (allows the stomach to be pushed in deeper), or relaxed - naturally I need to feel comfortable that the dom is aware they need to approach a relaxed stomach a little differently; I can take some fairly big impacts, but will start to tense up if they get too heavy. Then there are the different types of impact - obviously punching, but elbows, knee drops, stomping, kicks, jumps, blunt instruments...I've been hit with heavy church candles, had chair legs pressed down onto my abs, had guys sit on my stomach - all sorts. I would say my abs are pretty solid - I can take some intense and long work outs but naturally like everyone I have limits. Happy to have them pushed and of course if I need to stop it's typically only a brief break, maybe a change of position etc and we can go again.

Gear wise, nice and simple - jeans or jogging pants, shorts. Bare chest and bare feet (nice to feel the skin of the feet on the surface of the abs when being stood on).

Well, that's all for now folks.